Blending and Bonuses

Tuxedos are hanging in my closets upstairs!

This weekend my oldest son is getting married. He has two kids. He is marrying a wonderful, gorgeous, loving, sweet, caring mother of four kids. The Hubs and I are beyond excited for them.

My family is blended. My oldest son is from my first marriage. My middle and youngest son are from my current (and final!) marriage. When my kids were younger it took a bit of doing to work my oldest son’s visitations with his dad into our schedule, but it was manageable.

Can you imagine the scheduling that my son and my new daughter-in-love have to deal with having six kids and four separate sets of parents! Oh my. I have observed them over the past year as they were getting ready to blend their family, and I have to hand it to them……. they do an excellent job!

They have about six hours on Thursday night that they have to themselves as a couple. They always make it a priority to have a date night. Of course, we would watch the kids whenever they wanted us to but with their kids being with them only fifty percent of the time, they just don’t want to be apart from them when they do have them. Not as many sleepovers with gramma and grandpa but totally understandable.

So, on Saturday, we will officially have four new grandchildren. Bringing our total to eight. How will we treat these new grandchildren? The same as we treat our other four.

These four are our bonus grandchildren. No, we weren’t there for their births. We didn’t get to rock them to sleep when they were babies. And we didn’t get to see their first steps or hear their first words. But now we get to welcome them into our family and share ing their milestones and accomplishments. They will now be our grandchildren for reals!

We are a family of 16 now and I can remember when I was a single mom, with just my oldest, and I so longed for a big, intact, loving family. I had some pretty tough days. Never in my wildest dreams could I imagine the family that I now have. I am truly blessed.

We are not the traditional two parent, never divorced family that was typical in the past. We sit at kids baseball games with our son’s ex and her spouse. And sometimes my ex and his spouse as well! We are flexible when scheduling events and we don’t expect everyone to be at everything. We try not to put expectations on anyone. Is it hard sometimes? Most definitely. Do we bite our tongues sometimes often. Of course! But we are committed to loving each other and helping each other get through this big, glorious, wonderful thing called life.

Our children have so many people that love them and call them family and our grandchildren have even more! Aren’t we the lucky ones!